Ok, you can stop clutching your pearls for a moment & hear us out. Traditions are by definition (according to Britannica ) “ a way of thinking, behaving, or doing something that has been used by the people in a particular group, family, society, etc., for a long time.” Traditions aren’t inherently bad if you resonate with them. Think of it as a buffet. Pick up what you enjoy & leave the rest. You don have to have the potatoes if you only want the mixed veggies.